Thursday, September 25, 2008

More Kids?

I was kinda worried a few days ago. Not only was I late, I had persistent dizziness for two days. I kept telling H that he better not have gotten me in trouble! He was like "What trouble? It's not that we have 11 kids already, and I can't afford another one!".
Well, my P did come. Texted H to tell him. He was a tad disappointed. He had a dinner with two friends that day,  whom announced that both of their wives were 6-weeks pregnant. H said that he could also be announcing that he would be a father again...but that was not to be. He was like "No Madison?" Donno where he suddenly find the name Madison. Maybe too engrossed with our trip to NY?
H commented that I looked soooo happy when my P finally came. 
Aiya....how like that?
I am too far and away from diapers, bottles, night-feeds, etc etc. 
Of course the idea of a little girl is nice. But NO guarantees...and knowing us, probably will be another BOY! 
I am really afraid of going through the baby-phase again. The night-feeds, the rushing back for baby's naps, the filled-to-the-brim baby bag, bottle sterilizing, the ZERO-freedom. 
Not only that....I don't live in Malaysia. How about confinement? (H said "your mom can come for a month!"), plus where would I deliver? 
Most expats fly out to Singapore to have their babies. As I have previous 2 caesareans, the third will probably be a caesarean as well....as with surgeries, mostly likely will have to do it in Singapore too. 
Who will look after the boys if I have to be away? They have school and all.
Really ask mom to come and stay for a month or two?
I really don't know....
Scared. Scared. Yet I think H wants a daughter. 
How? How? How?

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

Coincidentally, my hubby's friend also keeps suggesting his wife to have a girl for years, and they have 2 older boys like you too. She is still thinking about it...for years already. LOL!
Maybe we women are the one who get hands on MOST of the time with babies, so we kind of kia kia (not kiasi though) about the changes and sleepless nights.
But still hoh? If can afford it, and if age permits, why not? If there is help, of course...:P

Anonymous said...

remember okay....girls stick to mums all the way to adulthood!

....unless of course, they go the other direction, and you need to worry about boys and her getting pregnant, etc!

g

Irene said...

hmmm ur hubs sure wan a lil girl to manja loh. imagine, another dotter, sure "gold" of the family. hehehe... :)

NomadicMom said...

ShoppingMum - Very scared lah. My younger one already almost 9 years old. I am like 'samm-tai, samm-sai'. And I think H also sometimes like that. Very big decision lah.


G - Yeah. GIrl also got own headache...these days, think girls more garang, as in they are the one more forward to date boys, call them etc...

Irene - Wah...if daughter sure princess lah. So far, no grandaughters in our family...5 grandsons to date.

LZmommy said...

That was how I feel when I found out recently I was pregnant again. Now that it sinks in that I am pregnant, I am looking forward to it. :) My eldest turning 7 soon so not much diff from you :)

Perhaps you can start thinking about it :)

NomadicMom said...

lzmommy - your eldest turning 7 ...but my eldest is already 11 plus leh.

bp said...

NM, you know my case hor... so, this is possible, tho' no doubt it's harder in a home away from home. i worried a lot, still worrying, and still adjusting... and taking it one day at a time. you should see my dark circles and eye bags from the sleepless nites, but the joy that comes, it more than makes up for all this, yah... also, when we look back, the baby phase always flies by really fast.

whichever you and husband decide, i'm sure it'll work out nicely for your family.

NomadicMom said...

bp - This is a very big decision to make. And the problem is we are both YES and NO. YES and NO. YES and NO....depending on our moods. For me, saying YES is really really very difficult. If accident, then it is a different story.

stay-at-home mum said...

Go for it. You just dont know what joy and fun baby girls can bring. Go ask bp!!

And when they are older, you get supper tooo! Hahaha!

Health Freak Mommy said...

If your hubs can afford it, go for it. You will surely have another one if it's fated :)

Mamapumpkin said...

Have it! Have it! I know there are no guarantees but you can help the process a little and at worse case, if you don't get another girl, so what? At least you know you really tried.....But if you're lucky, I tell ya, girls are so nice......they care and they will come back to you when you're old and gray....*wink*

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