My Friend...

I want to thank everyone for your comments in my "Am I siew-hei post?".

It is not as easy to totally fei (get rid) this friend.
No.1 - We all are in this si-lai (?? no translation for this leh)group that meets once a week/ once a fortnight.
No. 2 - Fellow Malaysian in the school...

Oh yeah...after THE incident on Sunday, I had to meet her on Monday some more!!! It was a makan-makan at another Malaysian's house (school mom). I actually contemplated NOT going. But thought to myself..."Why should I be so kwei-shue? Like I am in the wrong? I will go!" And went I did.

She came and I just said a casual "Hi"...and she offered to get me a drink! I was a bit swei lah. I said "No. Thank You" and the whole time, was talking to other people rather than her. Well, we (plus 3 other chinese moms) are supposed to hold a CNY brunch for the non-chinese and we said either 20th or 22nd of Feb. So, I was discussing with this other mom and brought up 22nd, and she immediately said she is busy on the 22nd. Well, then this mom and I said okay lor..do it on the 20th lah. And then when we have informed the other non-chinese moms, she said "I will let you know if I am free on the 2oth". WTF?? I would have thought that she would be free on the 20th if she sooooo cepat-cepat said that she is busy on the 22nd?? Donno her lah.. Want to be like that. Like that lah. Not free. Not free lah.

The CNY brunch gonna be in my house...at least nobody is gonna say "cii fann yann chue gheh" about my humble abode!!!

I have already minimize my time with this friend since about 6 months ago.

Previously, we would go out for lunch/ jalan-jalan/ manicure/ do our hair / etc etc... But each of those times, there would be some uncomfortable instances......some would be those comments with chi (thorns) but also the type of comments she makes to the wait staff, be it the waitress or the manicurist. I think the manicurist very scared of her. Few times I went with her to the nail bar, she would wait until the girl has completed putting all the whites and top coat etc (for her French ma icure) and then make a big fuss that it's not even. Then they would have to clean up everything and re-do. Usually, you can tell them straight away to even out before they put the top coat ma... I could see that the girls were a piffed with her, but of course didn't say anything. She'll also make sarchy remarks to the wait staff at restaurants for little things. I mean you can tell them off...but the wait staff proabably don't understand the sarchy bits lah.

H and I share one car and driver...so I usually plan my schedule to be such that it would be a time when after the driver drops H at the office and then return home. She has her own car and driver (not sharing with hubby) thus have a car at her disposal at all times. Sometimes, she wants to go somewhere and ajak me to go. I would say "Can. You pick me up lor"... and everytime she comes to pick me up, she would complain so much about the roads to my house being so jam etc etc. So, to avoid listening to her complain, I've stopped asking her to pick me up. I rather NOT go anywhere than ask her pick me up. She actually asked me to watch a String Quartet last week, and offered to send her driver. This was before the incident. I also declined. I TAKUT she complain complain. Rather NOT go.

I am still thinking...contemplating...AM I really deprived of friends? Good friends I mean. I think I really am lor. Living in this foreign land... Make a friend. Find that you are in the same wavelength...and then they have to leave the country. *Sigh* My good Golf Kaki and friend went back to Singapore last December...she hated this place and decided to go home. Her hubby is still here though. With her move, I no more good friend, my S2 no more good friend, my S1 no more crush.

Or you make a friend, find that she is also almost wavelength...and then the more you know her, the more you find little bits and pieces that is not so pleasant. Like my this friend that I have been writing above. So how? Don't get to know someone too well?

Other friends... you meet, you joke. you laugh. you talk talk like old friends,...like best of pals...but are they really your best of pals? Not really lor. So how? Is it me with the problem?

I now have only one good friend here that I can share alittle more than the other "friends". If she also leaves, I am in TROUBLE!!! Okay..not so tai-chann-cheong lah.. I will have to scour the city for a new good friend!! hahahah.. Or I just pour my tears into my blog!! heheh...